Tuesday, October 9, 2012

bad parenting part 2

We're back here and thank you for joining us for our second installation of how to be an irresponsible parent, where we look deeper into the magical adventure that Spencer and I went on while we left our kids behind!

In today's episode I will share the details of our time in Budapest.   And here we go...

To our great advantage, and pleasure, a dear, dear family that Spencer knew in Romania, has since returned to their home country of Hungary, and so we contacted them to let them know we'd be in Budapest and we'd love to see them, if it was convenient for them.

Convenient or not (surely not, but they'd never say it), they transformed into the House of Rusz Bed and Breakfast/Travel and Tour Guide Company.  The picked us up from the train station, fed us a lunch fit for a king, (mmm, chicken Paprikash), and then started our sight-seeing tour.  After years of hearing of Reka, Timea, and Norbert, it was so fun to finally meet them. Reka made sure I was always bundled up and never left behind :), Timea provided the itinerary and historical information, and Norbi provided a little manliness for Spencer to not feel too left out :)  Not that he really needed to feel left out, Reka made sure he felt like a king!

Here are some of the wonders of what Spencer and I have decided is the most romantic city in the world:


Did I mention in Vienna I was reeeeeally tired?  Well, I was, a little.  So I missed most of the lovely country-side as we trained from Austria to Hungary, but the sleep was so dreamy!
 
 
We suddenly felt we were not in (Ar)kansas anymore, when we arrived in Budapest.  I don't think we were expecting it to feel so foreign!  I think the thing about Hungary is that we get used to being able to get by without knowing French, German, Italian, etc., since if you know English you have a sense for at least some of the roots of the words, and if you see the word written, you can kind of figure it out, plus so many people speak at least a little English.  So you can get by as a tourist most places in Europe.  But as far as I know, Hungarian isn't related to any other language and I'm pretty sure they just use the entire alphabet in different scramblings for each written word.  Those people must be SMRT.  Anyway, it was impossible.  Thank GOODNESS for our hosts! 
 

 
First thing, they took us back to their apartment to feed us a lunch for royalty!  This is Reka (getting into the fridge) and Timea (at the sink) preparring our Chicken Paprikash and some yummy soup, corn, etc. 

 
After lunch we jumped on the bus and started our tour. This is called "Hero Square" and if you look closely you can see that each set of columns houses a statue of a notable King.  Timea had studied the history of each king in the square and thoroughly educated us.  Spencer and I are kind of nerds for things like that.  We couldn't have done better if we had paid for a tour, I KNOW that.

 
This is maybe the national library?  Hmm, don't remember.  But there are buildings everywhere you look that have murals and columns and are rich with history hundreds of years older than our oldest buildings.  It's crazy!


After taking us to the mission-home/branch meetinghouse to "freshen up" a bit, we headed towards Castle Hill.  And that's literal.  Castles on a big hill.  Over looking the river that separates Buda from Pesta.  Wowza.  It was breathtaking.





This bridge crosses the river and is lit up at night by hundreds of lights.  The Rusz's timed our tour perfectly so that we would come to the bridge just as the sun set and the lights came on.  It was magical.  There's a legend about those lions that guard the bridge.  Something about the artist saying that if anybody could find an imperfection they could have something awesome.  Oh, man, my story telling is becoming an awful lot like my joke telling. 


We stopped and took a picture of another couple who was trying to take this picture themselves.  It was so picturesque that spencer and I thought we'd try it.  It looks like it worked better with a tiny little part-Asian with not so many layers and with her hair done.  Guess I was not factoring that in when I imagined how perfect this picture was going to be.  It was still a peftect moment.

It was pretty dang cold.  Everybody was lending me their layers because I'm a baby.
 
After we crossed the bridge we walked along a lovely little street until we found a little "Piano Bar" restaurant.  It was cozy and there really was a pianist playing for us.  We sat down to order and then they told us that they don't take credit cards.  Wha?!? So Spencer and Timi ran to the nearest ATM and accidently pushed the wrong button and got less cash than he planned.  He realized it but figured it would be enough, having checked the prices.  Well, when he got back he realized he had unknowingly looked at the prices of only the appetizers and that he was not going to have enough cash.  But we were already ordering so what could he do?  It was getting cold and late and so he just hoped that we would have enough.  In the end, we of course didn't.  Spencer had to borrow money from Norbi and Timi (which we paid back, sheepishly) and use a $10 US to tip, which really made Norbi mad.  In the end, it was a lovely meal with even more lovely company so it was all good.

 
Spencer was excited to see that a couple of the Cliff and April Clive family Christmas Newsletters were permanent decorations in Reka's and Norbi's Room/living room.

 
That night we went back and spent the night in their apartment.  Timea gave up her bed and planned to sleep in the same room as Norbi and her Mom, but she didn't really sleep much, as she had postponed her preparations for a big test in the morning so that she could show us her town. 
 
 
Spencer had committed to take me on a "date" and have some alone time even though we were going to be with mission friends for a great deal of this trip.  So the next morning we ventured off alone, much to the disapproval of our tour guide, who didn't think we'd make it on our own and insisted it was "impossibly" expensive.  One of the things we wanted to do most in Budapest was the Bathhouses.

 Ancient buildings with countless versions of natural spring water baths.  Hot tubs, cold tubs, tepid tubs, etc.  And a whooooole lotta elderly people.  Can't blame them.  It's hard to explain, actually, how this is such a great experience.  It was freeeeezing outside, by the way.  But that water felt dreamy.  Hey Spence---remember those mafia-ish old people who were playing floating chess as they presumably planned their next political coup?  They were rad.

 
After our super romantic date (and after Timea's test) we met back up with Reka and Timi and went to see the Parliament building and instead saw a line from there to here.  So we tried our best to schmooze our way in, but all the tours were booked until long after our train was supposed to leave, so we had to say farewell to that idea.  But this garden across the way was worth seeing.  This is Cadence's favorite picture from our trip:


We headed over to the famous Cathedral (I can't even remember what it's called now.  Dang it.)  Timi was feeling a little stressed and needed some time alone with her chinese food, so Reka and Spencer and I went to the cathedral and gave her some decompression time :) 
 
This one actually had an elevator, which we forced Reka to take with us.  And which is why I enjoyed this vista more than most, possibly :)
 
I didn't mean to take a picture of "two shining domes" (Spencer's words, not mine), but here it is.  Pretty regal, eh?

 
This cathedral was truly impressive.  The giant red marble columns whispered the devotion and blood, sweat, and tears that were given to erect a symbol of dedication to Christ.

 At first we thought these hand-painted murals on the ceiling were lovely.  Then we realized they were actually mosiacs.  And we were astounded.  I can't fathom the patience and perfection that required.
 
Hey there, conference center, found a friend for you:



Reka, though a member of our church, loves this place and feels a special warmth and reverence there.  I thought this picture of Spencer and Reka in such a place was an appropriate ending to our Budapest story.

After the cathedral, Reka and Timea took us to the train station, with much fear and worry that we would never make it through the rest of Hungary without them.  I felt the same way.  It was nerve-wracking to say good bye to them and then wonder how in the world to even know if we were getting on the right train, and then how to transfer trains between there and Romania, with no Hungarian guides.  We were so grateful for all the ways they opened their home to us, made precious time for us, fed us, guided us, and entertained us.  What a wonderful family.  There is no tourism as valuable as being in the home of a native and hearing and seeing from their end.

And then off we were, on our own. 

I have to admit I was extremely nervous when it got time to transfer and it was late at night, it was raining, we were hungry, we were still in Hungary, and we weren't sure where to stand or how to not miss our next train.  But the Lord was looking out for us, and helped us find the ONE passenger who spoke Hungarian and Romanian.  She sat with us and made sure we got off at the right time, helped us order food at the tiny little stand at the station, and made sure we got on the next train.  Glad that our next stop would be were people speak Romanian, we settled in, and relaxed a little, until the border patrol asked to look at our Passports.  This is normal, of course, but when you are in Eastern Europe and you've seen those movies about innocent tourists being abused and taken and confused and used by border patrol who speak some language they don't understand....  I was concerned when they rudely took our passports away somewhere where I couldn't see.  And then when they took my HUSBAND somewhere where I couldn't see.  I knew they were in the connecting area of the two cars, so I kept my eyes and ears completely tuned to that door.  Well, obviously nothing happened.  They just asked him questions in Romanian about our stay and were of course brusque and not polite but nobody got detained or anything.

And then we made it to Romania!!

And that is another installment.   Thanks for tuning in!

Friday, June 1, 2012

The Adventures of a Arkansan May

For those less fortunate of you to NOT be one, that is pronounced "Are Kansan"  Like you are saying somebody from Kansas, only slightly better :)

Turns out May was a pretty exciting month around here! We started the month off in perfectly fantastic style by sharing a wonderful weekend with our dear dear friends the Hutches. We love us some Hutches. And it turns out their days of being Arkansans are numbered (bittersweet feelings here...), so good thing we did this. We enjoyed showing off our new museum, having a lunch picnic, and then after naps and playtime, heading off to the main event:


 DEMOLITION DERBY, baby!!! It was fun to see several of our friends there, too. Man, we love dem derbies. One of these days, guys, it's going to be me...

 Look at these kids!  They are growing up so much.  I could go on about how when we moved to chicago There was 3-yo J, 2 yo Cadence, 1 yo Nico, and Newborn Campbell...


The next May adventure was fishing! Since Campbell wasn't feeling well, Spencer took Cadence and Layla and Campbell and I had a day to ourselves. The girls were excellent sports but were extremely spoiled. Five rainbow trout were ascertained that morning, and the girls think that every cast ends in a fish. Each catch had to be kissed by each girl. 







Above: eeeeeeeeek! they are so cute.  I can hardly stand it. (the kids, not the fish)


After the fishing trip they stopped by the "Buss Stop" for legendarily, unneccessarily large ice cream cones.  Yum!


Spencer was beginning to feel pretty gun-ho about being rugged around these parts, so he ordered a camping trip one Friday morning. Well, it was the friday before Memorial Day and no reservations had been made, so we called our friends and asked if their Missourri property was available, which it was. Then I had the uncomfortable task of inviting my friends to get in the mood for a last minute camping trip. yeah, no luck with that :)

The camp:

The dog.
 The cuteness:




So it was just the Clives vs. the wild, which turned out to be a great night. One of my truly favorite memories of all motherhood was made that night, actually. After a weinie roast and smores (and pink and yellow Peeps, Layla will remind you), we went out into the meadow and tried to catch fireflies. They were everywhere, it was truly magical, and the girls were so in to it! Words are typically my weapon of choice, but I simply can't give words to describe this magical moment...


The next morning we walked down to the stream and fished some more. We caught a little guy and let him go, after kissing him, of course. We chased frogs. We caught polliwogs. We learned about crawdads. We got soaked. In pajamas. We headed back to camp covered with ticks.




Campbell's first fish:










We got back to camp and began taking down the tent and packing up the van. I was very overwhelmed with ticks covering my children so I changed their clothes and buckled them into the van to watch "Spirited Away". Not very rugged, but hey, remember I had Lyme Disease? Not very happy about ticks just now.

We got everything packed and ready to go and then couldn't find the dang dog. In the last hour of our adventure she had finally decided that she liked the wild and had gotten a little over-zealous about it. After two hours of looking for her ( = two hours of picking up ticks), we left. Without her. Spencer sighed and suggested we get a roomba and name it Abby.Isn't she cute?  What a sweet thing to be left in the wild.
When we got home, just as we suspected, we had a voicemail saying our dog was found. Phew! Spencer went back to get her and then we spent the rest of the day trying to get ticks off of everybody and everything. I can't tell you the total number of ticks but if I had to guess I would say about 50, including the dog's.

But it was fun and a great way to make memories, so yes, Spencer, I enjoyed it. :)

The next adventure was our Last Minute Memorial Day Party Boat Day. That was a good one! Sunday after church Mark came up with this plan to rent a 42' pontoon boat on Beaver lake and take several families out all day. So we did. Ah! What fun! Smallwoods, Hatches, Flemings, Thompsons, Clives and Wrights, who brought their ski boat. Holy Canoli, that was a great idea, guys.

There was swimming, tubing, fishing, popsicling, grilling, napping, sunbathing, foot-racing, and romantic-toasting (oh, and it WAS our anniversary, you know that, right?).






 
That night Spencer and I went out to celebrate our anniversary and went to bed at like 10. Ten! that's some anniversary date :). But we were pretty tuckered. Not as tuckered as we were going to be.
The traditional anniversary picture, above.

You see, there is a magical week in the world of Walmart called "Shareholders'". In this week, hundreds of Walmart associates and shareholders descend upon our vast metropolis of Bentonville for the annual Shareholder's meeting. But, since Walmart owns the souls of most performers, via their labels who depend on Walmart for a great deal of their business. It's an exciting week.


This year the free concerts were Carrie Underwood and Cheap Trick opening for Aerosmith. Free, ladies and gents. So of course we went. And had a great time! All the shows were REALLY good.



I couln't help myself from getting a little "dolled up" for Aerosmith.  My shirt says "I [Fender] 80's".  It was perfect for both the concert and the Demo derby.  good stuff.



So, that's exhausting.  Plus my kids weren't sleeping at night.  So yesterday my eyeballs were like a zombie's.  Red and drippy and heavy. And my body was slow and heavy.  And my brain was all but non-responsive.  And we went to bed at 8:45.  And that is how you end the Adventurous month of Arkansan May.

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...because my kids have been really cute lately.  And we've done some fun things lately.  So I wanted to jot a few notes down.  Then I 'll get back to the slide-show-travelogue-of-the-future.

So the other day Layla said to me: "Mommy, can I have knowledge for breakfast?"

ahehe, where did that come from?  I don't know.  But a simple no wouldn't suffice.  We settled on having it for lunch instead, since it was mid-morning and breakfast was past.

  Sometimes she gets reeeeally mad at me, and then she yells, "DIE!!!!!!!".  I truly don't know if she actually is saying "die" or if it is a coincidence, but that's some coincidence, eh? 

As you probably know, Layla is 100% Spencer.  She is a natural-born hoot-n-holler-er.  Seriously.  She will just start screaming and cheering for anything that makes her happy.  If you've ever heard Spencer when he's excited... chuckle, chuckle....



Campbell.... oh, campbell...  here are some quotes from her (with a warning that they are rife with rudeness):
     Listening to a song in the car, "Mom, is that a tuba?" 
Me: "Uh, yes, I think so..." 
Cam: "Mom, I fink a tuba sounds like a buuuutt".  She says it like that kid says "blood" in that old youtube video, remember? like the "u" sound is like a long grunt almost. Oh, and we are NOT allowed to say that word in our house, so you can imagine my shock.
(I got out of the shower one day to see Campbell, who was very proud and excited to show me this.)


     Another time in the car, "Oooops, sorry, Mom.  I 'fowted' (farted) in my buuuuuutt."  Me: "Campbell, where did you learn those words?  We don't ever say those words, they are not polite.  Who taught you to say those words?"   Campbell thinks about it, "Mmm, I fink it was Jejush (Jesus)".  

After suspecting it for a few weeks, I've concluded that Campbell thinks of Jesus like an imaginary friend.  She has been known to blame Him for things, to insist He doesn't get sat upon, etc.  I've decided to be more explanatory about our relationship with Jesus. 

Cadence is growing right up.  Ahh!  I can barely stand it.  I can also barely stand to have to keep her busy all day everyday, now that school is out.  Well, I love it, but it's hard...  She is serious about chore lists, though.  Give that girl a list of chores and she gets in the zone.  She rarely complains about chores and is a hard worker most of the time. 
As you know, she's also serious about her wardrobe.  The pink-punch-in-the-face above was her outfit (and hairdo) this morning.  All her. 




This morning I got an email from soon-to-be-Aunt Fan asking what colors and sizes of traditional Chinese dresses do the girls want.  I asked the girls what colors they wanted and without further guidance received these replies: Cadence: coral, Campbell: turquoise, Layla: "pink".  They were all quite sure and came up with it on their own.  I thought it was fitting for my girls.

Here's a little part of Cadence's prayer the other day, which I thought was cute: "...And please bless us to always have the opportunity to play, and that we won't get sick for 2 years.  Or 1 year if it is your plan...."



 Oh, little Clives.  You drive me crazy.  And you are so cute.  And your little faces make me want to freeze you with a freeze-ray and keep you forever in a little glass case so I can keep you in my purse and you'll never grow up...

Oh, was that a little creepy?  I meant it like a normal person...  yeah...